"We are going to focus on LIFE for Katya. I believe, one day, she will amaze the world."

Dr. Ben Carson on Katya Dueck

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

When Life is Stormy After Adoption

Today I read a blog post about how stormy life can be after bringing a child home. The author talked about how there is little support much of the time post-adoption for hurting or struggling families. Good stuff, there. Read it.

We were fortunate to have a small support system in place after bringing Katya home. Even so, it's not been enough.

Reality is that we face challenges with Katya that even other experienced families who have adopted many, many, many more kids than we do are unable to help us with. Our Social Worker has not been able to give us any "keys" to success for some of the behavioral issues we face on a daily basis. Our family is struggling. We often feel just slightly  purely overwhelmed.

Still, I can't imagine how much harder it would be if we had NOTHING. No support net-work, no friends who are praying for us, no Social Worker who cares and *sometimes* can give us good suggestions that DO work for some things. No monthly support group meetings.  So, in the midst of my frustrations, I'm still grateful that we do have what we have!!

Our family is exhausted, but still standing strong, most days. On the days we don't, we are glad for those who hold us up in prayers. And even on better days, we are still grateful for prayers.

We love our little princess and even on our worst days are still glad she is with us. Reality is, she likely would not even be alive today were she not here in the USA and getting the medical care she needs. Her time was running out and fast in the orphanage due to the lack of so many basic life necessities.

Thank God with us that Katya is here--loved, safe, and cared for.

Hopefully, someday, there will be such a network of support and help for adoptive families that no family ever needs to feel alone, and no family ever has to walk alone.

In the meantime, what ideas and suggestions do you have to come along side families who are facing storms and in need of support?

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