So tired . . . so very, very, very tired of negative news from the school about Katya. It's to the point I cringe when the phone rings.
There is one person way up the "food chain" there that I don't think has said one single positive or encouraging word to us this whole year about Katya. Every single phone call, every single interaction is to report negative things.
I'm really weary of it.
Yes, Katya has problems. Yes, she still does things she shouldn't do that are not socially acceptable or appropriate. But a positive or encouraging word occasionally would go a long way.
Today I got another phone call. With the main teacher gone, and a sub in place, Katya bit a child and pulled a chunk of hair out of a child's head. While I'm glad they inform me, it would be SOO nice to just once every couple of months hear a positive word about my child from this person. Just every once in a while, you know?
We will continue to address the biting and hair pulling at home . . . although the fact that she no longer does such things to Chad tells me that Katya is capable of stopping if the stakes are high enough, and that she isn't likely to stop at school since they have ignored our pleas for a behavioral plan that addresses such things. I don't want my daughter to behave in those ways, but I also think that given her history, her non-verbal status, and the fact that they have ignored our suggestions largely . . . I can only shrug my shoulders and not let myself get too emotionally involved any more when they keep reporting issues.
So, even though I shall try not to get too emotionally involved, I will pull out and read these books to Katya again:
Teeth Are Not for Biting
Hands Are Not for Hitting
We have used them a lot already with Katya, and will continue to use them. Geared for the toddler crowd, they are perfect for Katya, teaching her simple but important concepts in ways she can understand. The English is simple and perfect for a child still learning English as a second language. The pictures are bright and engaging, and while the children pictured are clearly children, neither the art work nor the words are "babyish". So there is no offense to Katya's view of herself as a "big girl".
We also have and use other books in the series, and highly recommend them to anyone looking for a good method of helping their children learn appropriate social interactions.
In the meantime . . . wouldn't it be nice if there was a similar book that we could hand out to those needing it that would teach them how to say positive and encouraging words every once in awhile about Katya?!
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