UPDATE TO SITUATION
According to the teacher, who I emailed back and forth with today, this kindergartner is a troubled boy with a "lot of issues". The school is doing what they can to work with him, but his issues have seemed to bring out the worst in Katya previously, and they have clashed a lot. (Umm, yeah, given the chip on his shoulder towards her right from the start of the year, I'm sure!) They generally try to just keep them separate. The teacher was out of the classroom today (the para had her back turned to the whole incident this morning and was more in the middle of the group so she didn't hear it) but she will take it up with him tomorrow. When I pointed out that some empathy training might help this young man, the teacher assured me that they teach empathy and take it very seriously. I asked to be kept appraised of the situation (nothing has been said to me previously about this one particular child and Katya having huge issues, so I'm feeling like I was left out of the loop and am not very happy about that). I will check up on it periodically, and will be alert when taking her to school for any thing coming from him OR from her.
No, Katya does not have a 1 on 1 aide and yes, I believe that it would be helpful if she did. However, the school has not seen fit to provide one for her and she has to share a para with 24 other kids.
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This morning when I dropped Katya off at school, she walked into the gym with a happy, pleasant look on her face, and stood close to the boy on the end of the row of bleachers they are supposed to sit on. There was no room for her to sit down there, and besides, all the kids were standing getting ready for the pledge at that second.
This Kindergarten boy is one I have observed before seems to carry a chip on his young shoulders towards my daughter. This morning his chip seemed to have grown to epic proportions as he stared with a ugly look on his face towards her and snapped loudly, "KATYA! No pinching! Katya! No kicking!" No "Good Morning". No welcoming smile. And she hadn't even DONE anything to him except look at him pleasantly.
She stood there looking at him in perplexment, then moved away. He then turned and said to me in this ugly tone of voice, "WHAT'S WRONG WITH HER?!"
I simply replied, "NOTHING." And I may or may not have added, "What is wrong with you?!" I think I said that, but after I got out of there, I wasn't even sure if I had said it or just thought it!!
Fortunately, after she moved away from this boy, the little girls lovingly welcomed her and made room for her to sit with them. So all was not lost, but my Mommy heart is furious and hurting again . . . I know this is what my daughter will face in life but it's hard to see it happen right in front of my nose.
What would you have done it if it was your daughter?!